Continuing Bonds
Your green eyes are steady and clear. Loving, giving Living. So alive. So full of life. Were you talking? Did I stop listening? What did...
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Be more kind
This photo shows the singer- songwriter Frank Turner after one of his concerts, giving my youngest son Stef a big hug. Stef has just told...
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Winter
Anton died in the wintertime. December 18th 2019. That first cold season passed in a blur, my shock-addled brain functioning only in the...
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The Stone
I like stones. Since Anton died, I have collected heart-shaped ones that I find on the beaches near where we live. I have quite a...
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Kiss the Joy
He who binds to himself a joy Does the winged life destroy He who kisses the joy as it flies Lives in eternity's sunrise William Blake,...
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Triggers
Happier times. My 3 boys together, at the airport before we went on holiday a few years ago. So many memories, over 32 years of having...
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Lost Hours Walk
On 29th October 2022, our family and friends took to the streets of Portsmouth to do the Lost Hours Walk to raise funds for CALM Campaign...
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Losing Anton
The memory of the call from our youngest son Stefan in the early evening of Saturday 21st December 2019 will haunt me forever. There was...
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Traumatic Memory
I've posted this for everyone who, like me is interested in the way the brain works and how trauma memories affect us. There are several...
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Dual Process Model of Grief
Any death of someone close to us is painful. No matter how old the person or the manner of their dying, death demands that we grieve for...
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Notes for Therapists
If you are a therapist working with a parent or anyone bereaved by suicide or other traumatic death, it can be hard to see the light in...
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Good Enough Parenting
When we lose our child (sibling/grandchild/friend) to suicide, its virtually impossible not to ask ourselves the question "What did I...
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Traumatic Loss
Losing someone we love is always painful, and always, to some extent shocking. No matter how expected the death is, we can nevertheless...
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A Therapist's Search for a Therapist
I believe strongly in the power of psychotherapy. I have witnessed many, many times the capacity for human beings to adjust, to overcome,...
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Growing a Garden of Hope (3)
Finding Meaning I realise this picture doesn't look much like a garden, but then my garden of hope doesn't always look much like one...
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Talking about Suicide Loss
Losing someone to suicide can be a very lonely feeling. Some people simply do not know what to say, and quite often this means they say...
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CBT Techniques (2) Behavioural Activation
I love this photo of kite-surfers at a beach near where we live. I've never kite-surfed in my life and I think there's very little chance...
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